Think of yourself as a character and pose some questions to yourself to start shifting your perspective and moving in the direction of happiness.
What is the secret of contentment? That’s the query we’ve all been pondering. “There is no greater gift than the present,” are well-known adages.
“Be thankful in your attitude.”
“What you see matters more than what you look at,” someone once said.
It’s true that saying than doing. especially when you constantly have to push away ideas that try to undermine such a bright viewpoint. As a form of self-preservation or an ingrained survival strategy, our minds appear to cling to less hopeful tropes. Better safe than sorry, they say.
“Be ready for the worst, hope for the best,” they say.
“It’s better to be surprised and pleased than disappointed.”
Oh my goodness, those are much cozier. They don’t hold us to a standard or carry expectations that could leave us exposed or dissatisfied. Devaluing possibility will help us deal with problems more effectively.
Self-doubt and fear-based messages appear to travel quickly and readily across our neuronal pathways, which have been honed by the ongoing wear and tear of our inner voice.
A method of thinking is voice. And I can actually hear my inner voice. I’ll guess that I’m not the only one. My voice often resembles the mean girl from every montage in a 1990s movie. You are familiar with Her. She’s the one who tells you that your appearance, abilities, and those jeans don’t measure up.
Your frantic attempts to stray from the path are met with resistance from her. her threatening takeover. Every action you make, whether you take it or not, is met with punches from her.
Dead ends and twisted knots fill my mind. Why does the bad seem to manifest more readily than the good? Why do I keep showing up at the incorrect time, location, and definitely incorrect line?
So how do we start to reprogram our brain processes to speak kinder, healthier words? I do not represent myself as a specialist in any area of psychology, nor am I a neurologist.
However, I have spent at least half of the past forty years attempting to modify my own stinking way of thinking.
I make time every morning to clear my head when the moon is still high and nobody is up but the dog. It’s a window where I get to decide what to think about before the day starts pursuing its own agenda.
I get going with some healthy exercise, such as biking, elliptical training, or running, while enjoying some of my favorite music, a motivational podcast, or an audiobook. Saintly, I assume?
I understand that my morning routine and current actions are ineffective since I’m not listening. By dumping wisdom in, I’m attempting to drown out Her and my harsh inner voice.
I’ll do pretty much anything to keep from having Her to myself. anything compared to quiet. Since in stillness,
Our brains are continually downloading information, buffering everything in its path. This may not be good. This may not be good.
But if you erase the cache, it might be better. In brutally honest reflection, there are unanticipated epiphanies. So maybe we should let Her in.
Befriend Her and make peace with our inner voice. Our minds are designed to resist discomfort. our innate need to survive biologically. Which is why She sounds so abrasive. She believes that by shielding you from the worst case scenario, she is actually bringing it to pass. In a condition of internal conflict where you’re caught in a cycle of worries and uncertainties, how can you ever be happy?
Happiness, so they say, is a decision. However, you have a choice in how you think. The common message of all the sayings is that having peace of mind is the key to happiness. You must first be cordial with Her.
Stories have always piqued my interest because they provide us a peek into the inner thoughts of our favorite characters. I trust you with my insanity, they say. Additionally, if the story is well-written, it makes us feel as though we are not alone in our negative thought patterns.
Whether or whether the narrator is trustworthy, you get to experience their uncensored internal conversation and learn what it’s like for someone else to view the world through the personal prism of their innermost thoughts.
I’m recommending a literary strategy to help you start shifting your mind: picture yourself as a character. You have the power to alter the tale if you are the narrator.
Following are some queries to start having a dialogue with your inner voice:
1. Are you listening?
Characters have a keen awareness of their thoughts, good or bad. And you can’t change something, unless you know it’s there. Begin building an awareness and listen to what your voice may be trying to tell you.
2. What do you want?
For characters, motivations guide movement. Your voice can act as a method of manipulation to get what you want when things aren’t going the way you want. Know your motivation and you’ll have a better understanding of negative self-talk (guilt trips, condescending, self-deprecation, fear, etc.).
3. Who does the thought belong to?
We begin to understand a character’s behavior through their backstory. Who and what has shaped the way they see the world?
Consider who’s voice may be sneaking into your narrative. In order to connect with who you were made to be, you first have to undo who you were taught to be. What words belong to you versus inherited from someone else? Truth is relative.
4. Have you tried to change your perspective?
Play with point of view (POV). We typically think in the first person (I/Me). You can create space between yourself and the situation. Looking at your thoughts from a third person (he/she) objective perspective allows you to act as an observer to see how all the pieces work together.
5. If you said your thoughts out loud, what would it reveal about you?
Dialogue in stories reveals a person and what is going on inside them (not just happening to them). Does what you think match what you say?
6. Play the “what’s going to happen next game?”
Force yourself to move past a thought and into a hypothetical future. Turn the page to a scene that could go a number of ways (not all bad), and you will be more likely to press onward with an open mind. The mind is a muscle, whatever you train your brain to focus on, it will find.
7. Are you in the right setting?
Input is output. Consider the people in your ear. Even those who love you most can unintentionally manipulate the way you think. The setting can also be an external force that influences your thoughts. You may need to change your environment.
8. What does your body language say?
Maintain an awareness of your gestures and body language. Your body has a voice too, and sometimes it’s more honest than your brain.
9. What would a happy ending look like?
Imagine you’re in the last chapter of a novel and you’re about to finally understand everything. How would that change your internal dialogue? You may not know what your thoughts are truly about until it’s over, like the theme of a book is sometimes unclear until you reach “the end.”
A character’s flaws gets a reader on their side, even when they themselves are not on their own side. It’s time you get on your own side.